Practical steps to help Control our tongue(words)

First of all, you must agree with this, I cannot control my tongue, but Christ can control what I say through me. Yes, your emotions are hitting sixteen when they are designed to stop at ten! Your whole body is screaming for release and steam is fairly billowing from your ears. I understand that. But if Christ cannot control my tongue, then He is not omnipotent! It is that simple. If there is anything where He is limited, then He is not God! What to do? Practical steps: 1. Practice the presence of God in your life every second of the day. 2. Practice allowing Him to face the small issues'then when a BIG one comes you will have practiced for it. 3. Avoid confrontations when you are emotionally drained, exhausted, or not feeling well. Just retreat and say, "Let's discuss this later." 4. Isolate yourself until the steam stops coming out your ears! 5. Bite your tongue if necessary to keep it from spewing out invectives,expletives, or half-truths 6. Never use the words "YOU NEVER" or "YOU ALWAYS." 7. Begin thanking God for His power to overcome, for controlling you, for giving you insight, for fighting this battle for you. 8. Stop reliving the incident again and again. "I should have said... What did she mean with that remark? He always lies about everything! She doesn't have a brain in her head. I'll get even'just you wait and see!" And infinitum! Yes, sticks and stones may break my bones, but those broken bones eventually heal. Words cause wounds that may never heal.

Gentle Shepherd ( Lifetime daily devotions-Anabel Gillham)

Like a shepherd He will tend His flock.
In His arms He will gather the lambs,
And carry them in His bosom;
He will gently lead the nursing ewes.
Isaiah 40:11 (NAS)

            Sheep do not just take care of themselves as some might suppose. They require, more than any other class of livestock, endless attention and meticulous care.

Is this the reason that we are likened to "sheep" many times in the Bible? We are definitely in the category labeled "high maintenance"--we need endless attention and meticulous care--agree? And when we foolishly try to get these needs met our way, we are usurping the duty of our Shepherd and trying to fill a responsibility that was never intended for us. The shepherd knows exactly what his flock needs, how to meet those needs, how to protect his sheep from the elements and adversaries--he knows how to take care of them.

            I love this scripture--it gives us such a tender, loving picture of our Shepherd, Jesus Christ. He tends His flock and gives special attention to the "lambs and the nursing ewes." Why are those two singled out? You'll have your own ideas but I would say that the lamb is not old enough to know the basic--and that basic is that you stay close to the Shepherd and He will take care of you. The little lamb is adventurous, unafraid, and ready to meet anything that might spoil his day. Do you relate to that attitude? The nursing ewe is not looking out for herself, she is carefully attending to her baby. She doesn't even realize the dangers ahead. She is focused on her primary responsibility. She needs extra care because she has her hands full with every day duties. Do you relate to her?

          Put a face on the Shepherd in our scripture. What do you see? Tenderness, love, care, gentleness, wisdom, availability, understanding. I imagine He is quietly talking to the flock, maybe singing softly to them, making them aware of His presence. Watch as He tends the flock. Is He competent? Is He interested in every one of them--the big ones and the little ones? What does He do when one falters, strays, or is ruthlessly attacked? Think just what kind of a Shepherd we have. Why oh why, do we try to escape Him? Why do we insist on being on our own? Why do we avoid Him? Why are we afraid to be under His watch care'His control?

            That's the answer! The secret word--control! "I want to live my life the way I want to live it and if I make a mistake I have the intelligence and the fortitude to care for myself. I know what I want and how to get it. No --gentle Shepherd--wanted or needed." "If I can't do this myself I'm certainly NOT going to ask God to help me!"

            I had a lot of deep wounds resulting from doing things "my way." I cried a lot and became well acquainted with depression. I needed "meticulous" care and would have swooned over just a little loving attention. Eventually I realized the folly of my being in control and I put myself under the Shepherd's care. That decision has made all the difference. Not that I have blue skies and sunshine all the time. But, I know now that I have Someone watching over me and walking with me when the thunder rolls and the lightening flashes and the wind howls. More than being just "with me," He lives inside of me to face every second of every day for me--sunshiny days and ominous stormy days.

            Could you imagine that He's talking softly to you--singing maybe--wanting you to be aware of His presence? Remember: He will be as real to you as you will allow Him to be.